Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.— Oscar Wilde.
Self-love is so important to you being able to live your best life. We all have heard from Shakespeare in Hamlet “to thine own self be true” all the way to everytime we fly to “to put the oxygen mask on first before helping others.” My mother even used to say “Take care of number one.” When we hear these things, we think they sound selfish. Or in worse cases, we have been told we are being selfish for wanting to take care of our own needs. If you think about it, you wouldn’t go to a doctor who hadn’t gone to med school or even an auto mechanic who had never worked on a car. So then why do we think we are able to truly love someone else when we don’t even love ourselves.
Sure we all to some point love ourselves, but can we say we like who we are? Do we say no, I just can’t. Your child has been told everyday for a week to have their uniforms for school in the laundry room so they can be washed that weekend. Only to find yourself scrambling to do a load of laundry Sunday night so they have uniforms for Monday. Or a friend, family member or significant other wants you to go out for a late dinner and drinks, but you had planed to get up and go to the gym early the next morning. Do you say no I just can’t and stick with it even when they say “I can’t believe you are going to make me go out to eat by myself.” Even if you explain why you can’t , they say just this time. Next thing you know you are being talked into going and putting your needs on the back burner. Does this sound familiar?
Self-Love is when you see yourself in a positive way and are confident in who you are and your place in the world. It is also seen as when you set boundaries for yourself. What you will and won’t put up with. No one should allow anyone to hit them or abuse them in any way. Now with that being said please know until you have been in that situation you can not say what you would or wouldn’t do and by no means am I here to judge anyone.
You must be confident enough with yourself to be able to say “No I don’t like war movies.” “No I don’t allow smoking in my home.” no matter who they are. Standing firm and confident with a parent, a crush, celebrity or best friend. It doesn’t always mean saying no, it can be just standing up for what you feel is right. Does this mean you will never go see a war movie, no but you won’t be afraid to say no I think I’ll skip the movie this time. In future blogs we will talk more about setting boundaries and goals.
This is not a time to beat your self up or play the blame game. Take your time this is not a race. Enjoy discovering who you really are. Make sure as you do this you are taking time to take care of yourself. Take a walk, a bath, call a friend, get your nails done or buy your self a little treat, maybe a bottle of crazy finger nail polish or any thing that is just for you and makes you happy.
Self-love is an important part of taking responsibility for your own happiness. When you take responsibility for your own happiness you are taking the first steps to taking control of your life.
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When you decide that you’re going to start to journal, there seem to be many questions come up. How do I journal, long hand or on the computer? Do I follow a format or just write about whatever? Do I write in a notebook, a journal or lose paper? Do I care about spelling and grammar?
Let me answer some of those questions, share with you some of the things I have learned and suggest the products that worked for me.
I like to to write in a special Journal with a nice pen. When it comes to format, sometimes I just write a letter to myself giving myself some friendly advice or other times I follow a format of questions leading me to an outcome or answer.
When I first started Journaling, I knew my writing was for just me, no one else. If you live with people you don’t want reading your journal, I suggest putting it somewhere safe and not left out in the open. This is a lesson I learned the hard way.
When it comes to format, sometimes I just write a letter to myself, giving myself some friendly advice.
Other times I follow a format of questions leading me to an outcome or answer.
When you first start to journal, you are sitting there looking at a blank piece of paper. To some people that is uncharted territory, new adventures waiting for them. To others we don’t need GPS but a basic direction would be great.
I write a letter to myself based on how I’m feeling. Or what I want to see happen in my future. Maybe I will write out my goals or even a letter to someone else that I have no intention of send.
Other times I use journaling questions from Pinterest or books. Even sometimes I look up questions to ask during a tarot reading.
I make lists of what I like and don’t like about myself, when I first felt like that and what triggered it. Just be true to yourself when you write.
Why is a Journal important?
As you work through life’s situations, Journaling helps you see the progress you have made and reminds you who you are and who you want to be.
What is the difference between a diary and a journal?
A diary is mainly used to write things you would like to remember – daily activities, how the day was spent, what was done, the daily routine and anything that needs to get done. A personal journal is a record of significant experiences. As well as inner work and the journey you are on.
What are the benefits of writing a journal?
1. Stretching Your IQ
2. Evoking Mindfulness
3. Achieving Goals
4. Emotional Intelligence
5. Boosting Memory and Comprehension
6. Strengthen Your Self-Discipline
7. Improve Communication Skills
9. Spark Your Creativity
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Hi, I’m Kathryn!
I’m so happy you’re here! I’m a mom of two amazing girls, a middle school teacher and a life coach! I want to help you have your best life ever.
When I was a teenager and young adult I suffered from co-dependency and being a people pleaser with very low self-esteem. For years and years I wondered what was wrong with me. I always seemed to be on the outside looking in, no matter how hard I tried. I went from one bad relationship to another. With every relationship I lost sight of who I was more and more until I was pretty much gone.
Until my best friend opened my eyes to the carefree happy girl that had been lost so long ago. I made up my mind I was going to find her again.
I went on an eleven month search for me. After reconnecting with who I was, I knew I had to help other women find themselves and in the process help them create the life they always dreamed of.
I went back to school and became a certified Law of Attraction Life Coach, Cognitive Brain Theory Practitioner, Hypnotherapist, Mindfulness Practitioner, and a Neuro Linguistic Practitioner.
I would love to share my tips and advice so you can love the life you have . Even if your life is not perfect, how to use small tweaks that make a big impact. Also how to help you with all your relationships.
My blog is for women of any age who are struggling with personal development and self-love or just want to know more. I’m here to help you achieve that life you always wanted. Show you how to rid yourself of co-dependency, low self-esteem, and most importantly love yourself first.
Let’s get ourselves back!